“If you want to feel good, do good things.”
I said this to my moody teen the other day. It probably fell on deaf ears, but it rang true to my own. It’s such a ridiculously simple idea, but sometimes the truest true things are.
If you want to feel good, do some good.
I’ve heard it said that you can’t be sad and useful at the same time. It’s worth a try.
- Be kind.
- Be thoughtful.
- Be generous.
- Be a giver.
- Be helpful.
- Be a listener.
- Be tender.
- Find someone who feels invisible and let them know you see them. Be like Anne Lamott, who says she goes to her local health food store to flirt with the old people.
If you want to feel happy, do more of the things that make you happy.
When you’re feeling a long way from happy, sometimes it’s easier at first to do than to think or feel happy. The action leads to the thoughts that lead to the feelings.
Do you know what makes you happy? Sometimes we get so busy, so distracted, we forget to notice. Try collecting data. You are the researcher and your life is the experiment. When you notice yourself feeling happy, make a note of what you’re doing. Do more of that. Repeat.