One of my favorite lines is from a children’s book called Next Stop Grand Central by Maira Kalman. It goes like this:
“And trips are adventures. And adventures are new ideas and romance and you can’t ever know what in the world will happen which is exactly why you are going.”
As much as I love trips, I like applying this idea to life in general even better. We don’t always know where the adventures of life will take us. Sometimes that’s part of the fun. You may think you know where you are heading, and then life throws you a curve ball and knocks you off track. You end up on a new trajectory and you’re not exactly sure where it will take you. Life is ever-changing. As much as you whinge and cling to what you know, sooner or later change is inevitable. And that’s okay. Maybe that’s even good.
I know living with uncertainty can be uncomfortable. If you find yourself feeling lost and off course and squirming without a map, here’s a suggestion: put on your detective hat and allow yourself to collect clues.
Let your life be a mystery that you pursue with curiosity. Be an observer, watching and gathering information. This allows you to distance yourself a little from the outcome. If things don’t go your way, sure, you may be disappointed, but the good news is that you’ve gathered information about what works and what doesn’t. So failure isn’t really a failure– it’s a clue. It’s data, and data isn’t good or bad. It’s just data. No experience is wasted—it’s all information for you to store away until you have enough clues to piece your story together.