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Ask Me About Something Good

sunflowers

Several months ago, I took the picture above and shared it on Instagram with the caption: “This sunflower has a mind of its own and seems to be facing the wrong direction.” A non-conformist flower. Fun. At the same time, I had the nagging suspicion that there was something unnatural, something not-quite-right about that sunflower.

Sunflowers are heliotropic, meaning that they move and grow in the direction of the sun. There is a theory that people are heliotropic too and that our natural tendency is to turn toward the light. We are drawn like a magnet toward positive energy. Except, sometimes we’re not. Sometimes, like our little sunflower friend, we turn our faces away from the light. We are lonely and confused.

Our focus determines the direction we grow. The path of our focus becomes the path of our future. One of the many ways we can shift our focus is through the questions we ask. By being mindful of the questions we ask of our selves and others, we can gently guide our attention in a more positive direction.  Questions are seldom neutral. The questions themselves influence our thinking and feeling about our responses. You can use questions to build from your strengths rather than your weaknesses. Why questions? Questions show that we are curious, open, and willing to learn. Sometimes we need more questions and fewer answers.

Think about the difference between asking, “What’s going to go wrong today?” and “What am I excited about today?” or “What can I learn today?” Where are the sparks, the glimmers of light that dance through our day?

At the end of the day, try asking your family (or yourself):

  • What was the best thing about your day?
  • What was funny or surprising today?
  • What was something exciting that happened today?
  • What did you learn today?
  • What made you happy today?

Try harvesting your day for its blessings and see if that changes anything.  See if it makes you a little more heliotropic. xx Tara

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Shaking Off the Blues

clouds

This week wasn’t my best week ever. There was nothing truly wrong, just a series of little annoyances combined with runny noses and scratchy throats all around.  As a result, I felt pretty blah. We all have those moments from time to time, right? Some days, despite my best efforts to stay positive, I still feel a little yucky and it’s hard to shake it off.

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Transformation vs. Liberation

drop of water

The past two years for me have been all about letting go and leaving things behind. My house, my furniture, and most of my possession live half a world away. Beyond that, I’ve released, or at least loosened my grip, on a lot of other things, including friendships, aspects of my culture and identity, beliefs, and fears.

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Overcoming Blocks

butterfly on window

I am taking an online writing course that includes a module on overcoming blocks. These are the fears or limiting beliefs that hold us back. The instructor suggested writing down all of these beliefs and responding to them as you would respond to a friend. In other words, not with the same nasty voice that created these obstacles to begin with. The idea is that by identifying and shedding light on these fears, they will begin to dissipate.

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