Connect with self, Happiness, Learning, Mind, Nature, Uncategorized

Ask Me About Something Good


Several months ago, I took the picture above and shared it on Instagram with the caption: “This sunflower has a mind of its own and seems to be facing the wrong direction.” A non-conformist flower. Fun. At the same time, I had the nagging suspicion that there was something unnatural, something not-quite-right about that sunflower.

Sunflowers are heliotropic, meaning that they move and grow in the direction of the sun. There is a theory that people are heliotropic too and that our natural tendency is to turn toward the light. We are drawn like a magnet toward positive energy. Except, sometimes we’re not. Sometimes, like our little sunflower friend, we turn our faces away from the light. We are lonely and confused.

Our focus determines the direction we grow. The path of our focus becomes the path of our future. One of the many ways we can shift our focus is through the questions we ask. By being mindful of the questions we ask of our selves and others, we can gently guide our attention in a more positive direction.  Questions are seldom neutral. The questions themselves influence our thinking and feeling about our responses. You can use questions to build from your strengths rather than your weaknesses. Why questions? Questions show that we are curious, open, and willing to learn. Sometimes we need more questions and fewer answers.

Think about the difference between asking, “What’s going to go wrong today?” and “What am I excited about today?” or “What can I learn today?” Where are the sparks, the glimmers of light that dance through our day?

At the end of the day, try asking your family (or yourself):

  • What was the best thing about your day?
  • What was funny or surprising today?
  • What was something exciting that happened today?
  • What did you learn today?
  • What made you happy today?

Try harvesting your day for its blessings and see if that changes anything.  See if it makes you a little more heliotropic. xx Tara

Happiness, Mind, Nature

Flowing with the River

river with green trees

As I may have mentioned to you once before, after reading Finding Your North Star by Martha Beck I did a visualization exercise about my future life. I imagined myself in a light and airy home with big windows and pale wood floors. And this home was perched on the edge of a river. It wasn’t a place or a river that I recognized, so ever since I have been checking out all the rivers I pass, thinking: Could you be the one? Are you my river?

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Let the Light In


Happy New Year, Friends! I was slow to warm up to 2018, but now I’m all in and full of fire. I feel so full of light right now. Some of that is because of the beautiful Aussie summer sunshine, but it’s also more than that. Sometimes it takes some conscious effort to dust away the cobwebs and let the light shine through.

Here are a couple things that work for me:

  • Lose the clutter. Let’s figure out what matters to us and shake off the rest. By clutter, I’m not just talking about the stuff that fills our homes. I’m talking about all the mental and emotional stuff– all the things that clog your spirit and weigh you down. Let it go. Say no when you want to say no. Guard your time like the precious resource it is. Make more room for people and love and life.
  • Get outside. Look up, look down, look all around. Soak in all the beauty of nature. Make time for sunrises, sunsets, stargazing, and picking flowers. And while you’re out there, move your body. Get a little exercise in the fresh air.
  • Pay attention to what makes you happy. Do more of that. Maybe you don’t know right now what makes you happy. So collect data. Pay attention to what you’re doing when you’re feeling good and look for more opportunities to do your feel-good things.
  • Celebrate. Use the good dishes. Drink a pina colada on a Tuesday.  Have some fun.

What works for you? Here’s to a great big, glowing 2018.